NEW WORKSHOP SERIES beginning Feb 2016
“Have you ever had the experience when someone totally gets you, and you feel safe, energised and grateful for being understood?
This is Empathy affecting your nervous system, coursing through your body.
It’s caused by someone seeing and acknowledging your reality. You can achieve it again and again through certain strategies of listening and presence.
That’s the ‘Empathy injection’.”
Come and experience how a regular dose of empathy will make you a more creative thinker and significantly improve your relationship to yourself and others.
You are invited to a series of walks in the park to remember people who have died, or things that have been lost in our lives. The walks will be a collective time for walking, for silence, for talking, and for tea and cake.
Grief as a response to loss and death is part of life, but is often seen as something to be fixed or avoided, as if there was something ‘wrong’, if you are feeling sad about the end of a relationship, the loss of a job or of failing health, or if you are still grieving a parent, sibling, partner or child who died a while ago. You may feel pressure to ‘move on’ to the next thing rather than acknowledging the pain of the loss. These walks are also a space for acknowledging empathic pain of tragedy not in our immediate life; war, violence, pollution, loss of any life.
The walks are free and open to everyone. They take place in Myatt's Fields Park, SE5 9RA . Contact ceribuckmaster(at)gmail.com for details of the next one in 2016.
These walks are a simple way of beginning a conversation about grief and loss. It is not bereavement counselling and there will be support for telling your story in a way that is safe for you, and guidelines for how to listen. The walks are an investigation into how as a community we can allow grief some space.
Street Food: Urban foraging and world food shines a spotlight on wild food as ‘the new street food’ in a collection of
recipes inspired by the wild plants that grow in urban areas, as well as by the people and the diverse food traditions present in the city. ‘Street Food refers to both the wild food found on the urban streets, and also to the urban culture of eating food on the go’ says author Ceridwen Buckmaster.
In the book, you will learn how to forage safely in urban areas, and find over 60 world food recipes made with wild food, including Vietnamese rice wraps with wild herbs, Polish pierogi with nettle and thistle shoots, South Asian chestnut and fig biryani, Caribbean blackberry smoothies, and East African yarrow honey wine.
Since 2008, Ceridwen has led walks in London’s green spaces to learn about edible wild plants and is passionate about bringing communities together through food. She says, “We've gone walking together in parks and green spaces finding plants that are edible and safe to pick; and we’ve experimented with each other’s cooking traditions. In the city, you can travel round the world, just by connecting to your neighbour.”
Walks to Remember
When looking at Grief and Mourning in a series of Grief Walks, I came up with 4 things to acknowledge:
1. "Grief needs to be witnessed to be healed" Elizabeth Kubler-Ross (witnessed=seen=heard).
2. Grief can be a) the thing you can't stop thinking about (as in Michel Rostain's The Son "Dad can't hear anything that distracts him from his distress")
b) a dull ache that is difficult to locate the source of
In other words, there are griefs we know about, the obvious ones, and the griefs we don't know about, the not-so-obvious
3. Margaret Wheatley talks of people being healed by their own testimony in the Truth and Reconciliation hearings in South Africa. Being healed by having the space to expression their hurt and Pain. Grief needs space and needs to have space held for it. See more on Holding space here http://www.ceribuckmaster.co.uk/holding-space-for-each-other
4. "Grief isn’t an intrusion into the natural order of things. It is the natural order of things." Stephen Jenkinson
Community building at Dulwich Physic Garden
Make your own Protecting / antiseptic tea: Bergamot, Elder, Mint, Yarrow, Sage, Thyme.
This is what we did at Dulwich Physic Garden last week ... soaking up the energy of the plants and of the people who came.
We began by invoking the energy of other green spaces that we love in this way:
1. Name a green space or garden you LOVE to be in.
2. How do you feel when you are there?
3. What human needs that we all share are being met by being in this space?
thanks to all who participated and to Vale Residents Association for the invite.