The aim of this course is to create a support network of ‘Listeners for
Loughborough’, people who have the skills and are available to support
themselves, each other and other people in situations of conflict and
stress.
· We will learn about helpful and not-so-helpful listening.
· We will learn how to listen in ways that supports the speaker to gain clarity about and relief from a challenging situation.
· We will learn how to listen in ways that relieves us of the burden of ‘having to fix it’ for the other person
· We will learn how to listen to ourselves and ‘give ourselves a break’ from habits of being harsh on ourselves in our lives.
· This is the first step to being available for other people in ways that can create transformation and change.
Learning to Listen in this way will help you:
* be clear about what you need in your life
* improve how to listen to key people in your life; partner, children, friends, colleagues
* express yourself clearly by connecting to your needs
* be compassionate to yourself
* stop feeling guilty about things and take more responsibility
* take steps to create change in your life
* make requests in a way that improves your chances of getting what you need
* increase your self-esteem and self-confidence
Specific Course content:
Introducing Needs: What do we really need for a good life?
How to care for yourself: Connecting feelings to needs and connecting to self
Listening skills (how to listen without trying to ‘fix it’ for the speaker)
Speaking skills (expressing yourself and making sure you get heard)
Making requests so you are more likely to get what you need.
Transforming ‘enemy images’ we have of other people that compromise our peace and freedom.
How to create and sustain a support network of listeners on Loughborough.
What is nonviolent communication?
Nonviolent communication (NVC) connects to feelings and universal human needs as a way of communicating openly and directly, with care for the other.
NVC is a philosophy and strategy that brings about social and cultural change, without using violent means such as physical force or verbal attack. NVC is an active and inclusive strategy that broadens awareness of blame, exclusion and isolation, and lack of self-responsibility, which can then be transformed into self-connection and empathy, networks of support and self- responsibility.
What inspires me about Nonviolent communication?
Ceri: “I sought out support with communication when my son was 3 and I was having difficulty connecting to him. I’m often
guessing his feelings and needs and one day I realised the difference it was making. It was almost bedtime, my son wanted to play more, I said no. He scribbled on the sofa and I got angry, then he said “I drew on the sofa because I was frustrated we can’t play any more today.” I realised that relationships can be easier once we have communicative literacy around emotions. On a personal and professional level, NVC has helped me listen more deeply to myself and not override what my body says is physically possible and I use NVC in every project I work on, either explicitly or implicitly. My goal is to nurture into being a peaceful, aspiring, supportive community.”
Loughborough’, people who have the skills and are available to support
themselves, each other and other people in situations of conflict and
stress.
· We will learn about helpful and not-so-helpful listening.
· We will learn how to listen in ways that supports the speaker to gain clarity about and relief from a challenging situation.
· We will learn how to listen in ways that relieves us of the burden of ‘having to fix it’ for the other person
· We will learn how to listen to ourselves and ‘give ourselves a break’ from habits of being harsh on ourselves in our lives.
· This is the first step to being available for other people in ways that can create transformation and change.
Learning to Listen in this way will help you:
* be clear about what you need in your life
* improve how to listen to key people in your life; partner, children, friends, colleagues
* express yourself clearly by connecting to your needs
* be compassionate to yourself
* stop feeling guilty about things and take more responsibility
* take steps to create change in your life
* make requests in a way that improves your chances of getting what you need
* increase your self-esteem and self-confidence
Specific Course content:
Introducing Needs: What do we really need for a good life?
How to care for yourself: Connecting feelings to needs and connecting to self
Listening skills (how to listen without trying to ‘fix it’ for the speaker)
Speaking skills (expressing yourself and making sure you get heard)
Making requests so you are more likely to get what you need.
Transforming ‘enemy images’ we have of other people that compromise our peace and freedom.
How to create and sustain a support network of listeners on Loughborough.
What is nonviolent communication?
Nonviolent communication (NVC) connects to feelings and universal human needs as a way of communicating openly and directly, with care for the other.
NVC is a philosophy and strategy that brings about social and cultural change, without using violent means such as physical force or verbal attack. NVC is an active and inclusive strategy that broadens awareness of blame, exclusion and isolation, and lack of self-responsibility, which can then be transformed into self-connection and empathy, networks of support and self- responsibility.
What inspires me about Nonviolent communication?
Ceri: “I sought out support with communication when my son was 3 and I was having difficulty connecting to him. I’m often
guessing his feelings and needs and one day I realised the difference it was making. It was almost bedtime, my son wanted to play more, I said no. He scribbled on the sofa and I got angry, then he said “I drew on the sofa because I was frustrated we can’t play any more today.” I realised that relationships can be easier once we have communicative literacy around emotions. On a personal and professional level, NVC has helped me listen more deeply to myself and not override what my body says is physically possible and I use NVC in every project I work on, either explicitly or implicitly. My goal is to nurture into being a peaceful, aspiring, supportive community.”
