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        • De-escalation strategies
        • Conflict and Grief work in South London
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    • 1 Foundations of NVC >
      • 2 Foundations of NVC
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        • Self Empathy Steps (2)
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        • LASER (Enemy Image) Process
        • The Wheel of Self Responsibility and Dialogue when triggered
    • needs based approach to money
    • Systems savvy study group
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      • Holding Space for Each Other
  • Invisible Food
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    • Women Making History at the Museum of London
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The aim of this course is to create a support network of ‘Listeners for

Loughborough’, people who have the skills and are available to support

themselves, each other and other people in situations of conflict and

stress. 





·         We will  learn about helpful and not-so-helpful listening.  

·         We will  learn how to  listen in ways that supports the speaker to gain clarity about and  relief  from a challenging  situation.  
·         We  will learn  how to listen in ways that relieves us of the burden of ‘having  to fix it’ for  the other person

·         We will learn  how to  listen to ourselves and ‘give ourselves a break’ from habits of being  harsh on ourselves in our lives. 

·         This is the  first step  to being available for other people in ways that can create  transformation  and change.


  
Learning to  Listen in this way will help you:

* be clear about what you  need in your life

 * improve how to listen to key people in your  life; partner, children,  friends,  colleagues

 * express  yourself clearly by connecting to your needs

 * be compassionate to  yourself 

* stop feeling guilty about things and take  more  responsibility

 * take steps to create  change in your life

 * make requests in a way that  improves your chances of getting what you  need

 *  increase your self-esteem and  self-confidence


  
Specific  Course content:

Introducing Needs: What do we really need  for a good life? 
 
How to care for yourself: Connecting  feelings to needs and connecting  to self 
 
Listening skills (how to listen without trying to ‘fix it’ for the   speaker) 

Speaking skills (expressing yourself and  making sure you get heard) 
 
Making requests so you are more  likely to get what you need. 
 
Transforming ‘enemy images’ we  have of other people that compromise our peace and  freedom.

How to create and sustain a support network of  listeners on  Loughborough.


What
 is  nonviolent  communication?
 
Nonviolent communication (NVC)  connects to  feelings and universal human needs as a way of communicating  openly and  directly, with care for the other.
 
NVC is a  philosophy and strategy that brings  about social and cultural change,  without using violent means such as physical  force or verbal attack. NVC  is an active and inclusive strategy that broadens  awareness of blame,  exclusion and isolation, and lack of self-responsibility,  which can then  be transformed into self-connection and empathy, networks of  support and  self- responsibility.

 
What inspires me about  Nonviolent  communication? 
 
Ceri: “I sought out  support with communication  when my son was 3 and I was having difficulty  connecting to him. I’m often
guessing his feelings and needs and one day I  realised the difference it was  making. It was almost bedtime, my son  wanted to play more, I said no. He  scribbled on the sofa and I got angry,  then he said “I drew on the sofa because  I was frustrated we can’t play  any more today.”  I realised that relationships can be easier once we have  communicative literacy around emotions.  On a personal and professional  level, NVC has  helped me listen more deeply to myself and not override  what my body says is  physically possible and I use NVC in every project I  work on, either explicitly or implicitly. My goal is to nurture into being a  peaceful, aspiring,  supportive community.”

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