LASER process (Transforming enemy images)
Preparing yourself to deal with conflict
L= What’s the LOAD? (the judgment you carry)
A= What’s the ACTION this person has done or said that leads you to have this Load/judgment?
S = Self-Empathy
E = Empathy for the other
R= Reflect on how you feel now and are there any requests for action that needs to happen.
Based on NVC Transforming Enemy images processes. This iteration by me.
Preparing yourself to deal with conflict
L= What’s the LOAD? (the judgment you carry)
A= What’s the ACTION this person has done or said that leads you to have this Load/judgment?
- This is a non-controversial observation of what has happened
- It will enable you to enter into conversation with the person with lower risk of reactivity or defensiveness from them.
S = Self-Empathy
- How do I feel when I remember what this person has said or done?
- What am I needing or longing for in relation to this action?
E = Empathy for the other
- How might the person taking the action be feeling?
- What needs is this person trying to meet, even if they are totally not meeting them, or meeting them ‘tragically’?
R= Reflect on how you feel now and are there any requests for action that needs to happen.
Based on NVC Transforming Enemy images processes. This iteration by me.
