Three premises of Conflict and Grief work
  • That Conflict is a Resource. Conflict holds within it vital messages regarding unmet needs and areas of necessary change.
  • And that there is a price in not expressing one’s grief and that Grief needs to be witnessed to be healed.
  • and this quote from Maya Angelou  "There is no agony like bearing an untold story inside of you"
Almost everyone we spoke to, could connect to these premises on a deep instinctual level.
 

Raise energy & create unity


Do you need help to:
Raise energy and create unity in the community

Identify what’s important for everyone in a meeting or event and create strategies that attend to what’s been identified

Give community members the experience of being heard

Enable community members to listen to each other

Slow down meetings and discussions in a respectful way to aid progress

Co-create guiding principles so that people can work effectively together

Help people air conflicts and work through them

Work towards agreements

Enable community members to acknowledge and list their skills and assets

Create enough safety and trust that community members are able to act out of their best, most generous selves.
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A Restorative Day

Hidden Conflicts/Open Grief – Friday 12th February
10am – 4pm
Angell Town, Fairfax House
 
A restorative day of connecting, wellbeing,
remembering, and community agreements
 
Plan for the day
Morning:
 
9.45- 10am: Open for Tea and Coffee
 
10 – 10.30: Warm Welcome. Massage demo and practice.
 
10.30- 11: Introductions & Reflective Listening
 
11-12.30: Main Circle

  • Focussing question: What can we agree to do as a community when there are problems or differences between people or in a group?
 
12.30 – 2pm: Delicious Lunch with a range of African and Caribbean dishes (massage, networking, planting seeds)
 
Afternoon:
 
2pm – 2.30pm:
  • A moment for grief and remembering, naming people who have been lost over recent years. Who do you want to be remembered?
  • Remembering Dora Boatemah and acknowledging her contribution to this community
 
2.30pm – 3.30pm:
  • Ceri and Lahnah share budget for financial transparency around this project
  • Any other business resulting from the morning.
  • Community announcements
 
3.30pm-4pm Drumming with Tony Happy Drums
 
4pm Close
 


 

It worked because WE worked

We are two local women, mothers, friends, human beings with heart. We see a lot of pain and struggle in our local communities and this deeply affects us.

As we sat and talked through our aims for this little initiative on Angell Town estate, we talked about how common it is when in pain, conflict and grief, we pull our shutters down and we struggle with openness, trust and transparency. We wondered … what if we walked toward painful, frustrating and overwhelming issues, together, in a supportive environment?

So  we collaborated on the Angell Town project and enjoyed each other's input very much. As a white woman (me) and Black woman (Lahnah) we complement each other and bring different strengths,skills and backgrounds. Our experience on Angell Town that the project worked because WE worked. People experiencing us working together and supporting each other was new and inspiring for some people.