Some notes on Grief from this text:
There are consequences to denying grief
Grief is about surrender
Collective grief and trauma (of Hurricane Katrina)
There are dangers to our wellbeing when not recognising grief
Grief moves in disorderly ways
Lets move closer to grief not further away
Grief always comes with trauma, trauma does not always come after grief.
Grief is the opposite of indifference. Grief is an evolutionary indicator of love.
The question is whether your leaders and staff have the skills to recognise grief and the resources to respond when it appears. This is difficult because tend to people deny it and move to blame.
“Blame refuses grief’s complexity and wisdom. Blame forces our eyes in the wrong direction. When blame appears as a pattern, it is a reactionary habit that grows out of society’s ritual denial of grief”
Death is not the burden. Inequality and the violent imbalance of power is.
Loss is natural. We need the skill of coping with loss
Francis Weller Gate of Grief
Gate 1: everything we love we lose
Gate 2: grief for places inside us that haven’t know love, that are shamed and outcast
Gate 3: sorrows of the world – grief for the discrimination and violence endured by marginalised bodies
Gate 4: grief for what we expected and did not receive
Gate 5: Ancestral grief